Melissa Marcus had been on four dating apps for almost two years when she met Justin Wass on Bumble in June 2016.
“He was creative and stupid. In one photo he was wearing a tie-dye shirt with cats and writing a haiku, ”said Ms. Marcus, 30, senior program officer at New Visions for Public Schools, a nonprofit education program that supports schools in New York City. “He was different from the men I dated in the past.”
Mr. Wass had only been on Bumble three months; Mrs. Marcus was his seventh date.
They met two weeks later in the Russian vodka room in Manhattan’s Hell’s Kitchen, which Mr. Wass had chosen. Although the bar and location weren’t Ms. Marcus’ first choice, the man who led the conversation was surprisingly pleasant. “He was warm and warm,” she said. “It was the first time I kissed someone on a first date.”
They went to a second bar, Lily’s, so they could see the Brexit results. It was 2 a.m. when Mr. Wass dropped her off at home.
“I couldn’t sleep or stop smiling that night because I had this excited feeling after meeting her,” said Wass, 34, vice president of international wealth management for Morgan Stanley International Business. “I made a decision to throw away the dating games and text the next day.”
A second date took place the following week. Almost immediately, they saw each other several times a week.
“I was guarded because I didn’t want to be hurt,” she said. “But after a month of dating, we felt like we had been together for years. I could see how I was with him for the rest of my life. He became the person I wanted to see all along. “
For Mr. Wass: “There was no moment of falling in love, it was a series of moments. I felt like we were together. We were able to talk about it very early on. “
Ms. Marcus spent most of the nights in Mr. Wass’s Turtle Bay apartment, only returning to her Chelsea home to collect her belongings. In June 2017 she moved into his apartment.
Two years later a proposal came up in Paris at the Eiffel Tower.
Planning for the wedding came as quickly as their relationship developed: May 2, 2020 was their date, a venue was booked, a guest list of 200 was made.
Then came the coronavirus. Their wedding has been postponed because of the pandemic.
A new wedding date has been set and the location of the ceremony has been changed from the Village Club on Lake Success in Great Neck, NY, to Cat Rock in Central Park. The guest list was reduced to 15. Ms. Marcus ’95 -year-old grandmother Elaine Oster replaced the rabbi.
On April 2, the couple married Ms. Oster, who was ordained by the American Department of Marriage for the occasion.
“We feel a strong connection to Midtown, this is where we had our first date and where we live,” said Mr Wass, who added that the couple often picnicked on Sheep’s Meadow. “The place where we got married is an elevated rock and offers an unobstructed, scenic, and beautiful view of Manhattan. And Melissa’s grandmother is the coolest person we know. “
“I had a timeline in mind that I had to readjust over and over again,” said Ms. Marcus. “With Justin, I let go of the timeline. He is my family and my best friend. I knew that he was my person and that I wanted to be with him. “
Mr. Wass felt the same way. “With Melissa, I can be completely myself,” he said. “She calms me down. She does everything better. She is the person I want to share everything with. “