Ms. Chettiar told Mr. Wolf early on that she was going out on purpose, that he should let her know if he wasn’t interested in partnering for life and having children. Such a statement from him never came. When the pandemic hit Manhattan in March 2020 and they began quarantining each other in each other’s homes, their conversations about when and how to get married took off. After walking the West Village on June 6, they stopped at a Billy’s Bakery in Chelsea near their home to buy a chocolate cupcake for later. While she wasn’t looking, he slipped an engagement ring into the frosting. When she initially showed no interest in a bite, he insisted. “I thought, ‘Why is he with me for that cupcake?'” Ms. Chettiar said. Before she took off the packaging, she knew. “He was next to me on the couch and said, ‘Do you want to marry me? ‘I was very emotional. I had tears. “
Their yes to his proposal preceded a spate of wedding planning amid the pandemic. “Since I’m 42, we wanted to try to conceive right after the wedding,” she said. But before that could happen, Ms. Chettiar had to undergo surgery for a uterine myoma and then recover for months. They decided that January was the earliest they could get married.
Mr. Wolf’s family consider St. Louis their home. His army unit is also stationed there. When a search for wedding venues in Missouri at an elopement chapel, the Marry Me Cottage in O’Fallon, turned up, they were sold.
Because of the pandemic, the plan was always a guest list that included immediate family and few friends. On January 16, Ms. Chettiar and Mr. Wolf were married in front of 24 masked guests in the chapel’s heated courtyard, which was accented with flowers and fabrics in Valentine Pink by Rev. Debby Bartley, an associate pastor at First United Methodist Church in St. Charles.
At the end of the Christian ceremony, when Ms. Bartley announced they were husband and wife, the court prayed with her, “Those God has put together don’t let anyone go apart.” Then came an Indian tradition, the tying of the wedding chain. When Mr. Wolf reached under Ms. Chettiar’s veil to secure it, Ms. Bartley stated that the necklace was intended to promote happiness and health and to identify Ms. Chettiar as a married woman.